My parents divorced when I was 5.
I became a divorce attorney over 10 years ago.
In 2010, I separated from my Husband. We divorced the next year, after a 10 month separation. From start to finish, our legal divorce took 34 days. However, recovery from the emotional trauma of the breakdown of our marriage was much more significant.
Divorce has, for a long time, been a part of my life. The vast majority of people are affected by divorce, either in their family of origin, in their own relationships or that of friends and family member.
Today there are too many people handling divorces improperly. Often, attorneys make the situation worse instead of better. People use the legal process to try to punish the other party, to seek their version of justice and as an outlet for unresolved emotions.
There are good attorneys who help people distinguish between the legal issues and emotional issues. However, too many attorneys help their clients bring emotional issues to court and create fights for personal financial gain.
I wrote Divorce with Joy to help the clients identify these issues and navigate the legal system and emotional recovery in the most efficient way possible, for the sake of their families.
Making the decision to divorce is never easy, but in July of 2005 the birth of our first son changed my life forever. I instantly knew my life, as it was, wasn’t good enough for him. His birth was my rebirth, and it fundamentally changed me and the way I practiced law.
This change began my walk along a path to true happiness. This path ultimately led to divorce. I realized many of the decisions I’d made in my life were a result of childhood trauma. As I began to heal this trauma, those decisions didn’t make sense to me any longer. As I lived more into my authentic self, I didn’t even recognize the person who’d married all those years ago. I also didn’t see my Husband in the same way. He was not on the same path to healing. It became clear to me that our marriage was over and it was time to move forward as a single person.
For some, that may be difficult to understand, but another reason I believe my divorce was best is because we were able to divorce without destroying our family.
Instead, we live every day with joy, working to maintain a healthy relationship for our boys who are now 7 and 4.
The biggest problem with couples and families facing divorce is that they try to use the legal system to do something it was not designed to do – give you emotional satisfaction. Family Law is not about vengeance, victims, right, wrong, or punishment.
Too often people act out in a divorce with these motivations without even realizing it. This behavior unnecessarily complicates the legal process and creates dissatisfied clients who are stuck on the drama train to nowhere.
But, if you want a drama free divorce, a Divorce with Joy, you must understand how to use the legal system the right way and resolve emotional issues outside of court.
If you need some ideas on how to do that, enter your name and email address at the top of this page to download a free chapter from my book to take steps in the right direction.
My goal is to facilitate happy families at the end of the divorce process, and client by client, reader by reader, I believe we can do that. I believe our children deserve no less.
Click here to learn more about Joy Ragan and her Family Law practice in Central Florida.
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