Diets suck. Learning how to nourish our bodies should be FUN! Diets are restrictive and want to tell you what to eat and when to eat it. Let’s face it, if it were just about what and when to eat we would all have 6 pack abs. There is a saying, “When you know better you do better”. Well the thing is that I have known better for decades and yet I’m still carrying around this extra weight. So, in this context, that saying isn’t exactly true. The question becomes “Why?” In Eat Weigh Love, I want to unpack the why and also learn the science of how to nourish our bodies. I think too often, though, the science is the focus. Counting points or calories is important, but I don’t want that to be the focus. I want the focus to be love. Love yourself, love your body and share that love with your neighbor. I think the number one thing we get to unpack for ourselves is, “why am I not loving myself and my body enough to treat it well?” Weight loss and looking good are then a byproduct of self-love not self loathe.
Now, let me tell you my story. I weighed 120 pounds at age 5. This is the equivalent of weighing 450-500 pounds as an adult. I’ve been on diets my whole life; nutrisystem, weight watchers, slim fast, cabbage soup diet, etc. I lost and gained the same pounds over and over again. I was obsessive about “being skinny.” I would work out like a crazy person, then come home and eat away my loneliness. It was literally compulsive behavior. I would eat away the stress of my job, my marriage and life in general. I didn’t really understand the cycle I was in. I would just eat dinner, then snack, then munch while I was watching television– Am I the only one who has eaten 3 bowls of ice cream while watching The Biggest Loser? I knew intellectually it was counterproductive. I knew my body didn’t need all of those calories right before bedtime. And, yet, I still ate.
I “dieted” and exercised for all of the wrong reasons. I said terrible things to myself … “you’re fat, nobody is going to love you like this, you’re ugly.” Women spend a lot of time judging each other and making each other feel badly. They are constantly evaluating, “Who is the skinniest in the room?” (As if it is some kind of power play.) Eat, Weigh, Love is the opposite of that mentality. It is to counter society and our internal dialogue which promotes a negative self-image. I continue to unpack the dynamics of this relationship with food and I want to do it together. I think way too often we think we are alone. We think no one in the world would understand us. As I share my story and open up to people I am learning we are very much the same. Eat Weigh Love has the following components: Support, Learning and Products. We all share and walk the journey together, in love. We’d love to walk with you.
Email if you’d like to join Eat Weigh Love – joy@divorcewithjoy.com
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